Anyone with older children feel this way? L/c ment.

[josephsmom]

Do any of you with older children feel like you are still going to loose them?  Johnathan is 14 and every night I still check on him several times a night to make sure he is still breathing since we lost Joey to SIDS.  He is away camping for 5 days and I had so much trouble sleeping last night as I was not able to check on him.  I am having trouble tonight thinking about going to bed as I am sitting here thinking I need to check on him and he is not here. I don't know maybe I am too overprotective of him but I just hate when he is not here to check on him.  I keep wondering what am I going to do in 4 years when he goes off to college.  I also keep wondering if I am totally crazy for feeling this way.  I just hate the fact that my constant fear is loosing him.  Do any of you have that feeling and how do you get past it?  I just am so afraid that one night he will stop breathing like his older brother did. 

Thanks for your help and support!

XXX
Dyan

[ginger dee]

I check my 5 and 3 yr old daughters a few times a nite along with 9mth old amelia it only natraul to keep checking they are ok do not think i will ever stop checking xxxx

[Pamela]

Me too im another one who checks. If I try and go downstairs without checking after nipping to the toilet I just cant do it! I have to go back up and do it. BUT I cant check on her in the morning, how wierd!

I dont think that feeling will ever go, it may subside a little but that worry will always be there xx Love to you xx

[dn85]

I check on my boys aged 6 years and 7months quite a few times in the night.
I have to check on them every couple of hours and then when I go to bed I wake up twice in the night to go and make sure they ok.
Donna
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[Olliemam+1]

Dyan

I check on Olilver at least twice a night, just to make sure xxxxx.

Take care


Dawn xxxxx. 

[olivias mummy]

I dont have other children but if i did i anticipate that i would check constantly as i think what you are describing is natural fear given what we have all experienced and i dont think anything no matter how old your child will stop you worrying about losing them. i guess the way they might go changes but i dont think the worry leaves.

love cheryl xx 

[kyekye]

My littleboy is 5 and i check on him all the time, i think we will always do it.
love kye xxx

[sue]

Dyan I am constantly checking on my 3 1/2 year old daughter and my older two who are 15 and 9.  I think it is only natural when you loose a baby to feel this way, you are certianly not crazy just a loving mom.  My 15 year old daughter went away with the school to Spain for 4 days and before she went I was telling her now dont do this and dont do that she probably thought I was really mad.

Sue X

[angelmum]

I check on all of my kids everynight sometimes a few times a night


i don't think i will ever stop checking on them and if there sleeping at there nan's i make sure my mum or John's mum checks on them before they go to sleep and first thing on a morning 






Donna