How do i answer the difficult questions? * l/c mentioned*

[kyekye]

Hi ladies,
Not sure if i've posted this in the right place, sorry if it's in the wrong place.

I dropped my little boy off at school today and my friend who's is the mum of my boy's best friend told me that she's pregnant (8 weeks) I just know that when my boy gets home today, he will tell me all about it. I know that he will also say, when can we have a baby? He asked me a couple of weeks ago, he said " can we have a baby mummy? but one that doesn't die so i can look after it" It broke my heart to say the least 
All i could say was, i hope so sweetheart.
I just don't know how to handle it. I'm struggling today big time. I just feel like it's one thing after another. I don't seem to be able to get over one thing before something else happens. My friend didn't say but i have a feeling that the baby will be due around Lexi's due date. We were given two dates, one by the doctor and one by the scanning lady, one was 29th Feb and the other was 3rd March.
I just feel like hiding under the duvet and not coming out!!!
I just feel like i'm getting weaker, does that make sense???

Sorry for ranting, i just need to get it out

love kye xxx

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

 

It is so difficult to know how to answer childrens questions without leading to more questions which seem to get more difficult as they go on.

I wish i could tell you just what to say,

I dont think there is a right way to handle these things, after all your son, in a perfect world would not yet have any experience of death.

All i can say to you is stay strong and dont be too hard on yourself.

thinking off you

 

[karaokej88]

 

aw hun,

sorry things arent too good for you.

i am not sure what would be the best thing to say, your lil lad is such a sensible boy i am sure he would be able to take on board whatever way you decide to explain things, but it doesnt make it any the easier for you to explain. maybe ask your partner if he could do it? that would take the pressure off you?

i am sure you will be fine hun, but doesnt make it any less painful,

one day you will have another bubba, maybe until then you could say that when you do have another baby, he/she will be a special present from our angel, but we have to be patient.

i will be thinking of you hun, hoping the question doesnt come, as he has asked before he might not ask again.

take care,
love jane/xxxx

[olivias mummy]

awwwww kye how difficult. I would just keep it simple myself and say "one day we will" and if he says when just say "soon" something like that, quite vague answers.

I hope the baby doesnt come around Lexi's due date but unfortunately these are things out of our control.

Here for you anytime.

love cheryl xx 

[marie Ethan's mum]

hi Kye
 I am  really  feeling for you sweet heart ,I've already told my lot (kids)   'mummy's tummy is broken'so we can't have any more babies as I don't want to try again and they seemed to understand that because it was hard every time we saw someone with a 'bump' or new baby but as for your situation I would just say something simple like
                       
                    when it's our turn  darling

as I think Jane said hopefully he wont ask again soon as he has already asked recently .
stay strong and be gentle on yourself 

lots of love marie 

Mummy of angel ethan  and four L/ C