really quite nervous

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

Everybody is always having a go at me for babying josh, he is almost 2 but still sleeps in my bed most nights and always in my room.

Yesterday I gave in to people yapping and decided I had to face the music and let amy sleep by her self. she has her angel care alarm and her moniter is turned up to max so i will be able to hear her breath but im still petrified.

I know that god forbid anything did happen to her in her sleep which room she was in really wouldnt make all that much difference but a part of me is screaming 'Im not ready for this!!'

I have agreed with craig to try it for one night maybe 2 and see how i feel but he thinks i am being ridiculously stupid by worrying about this so much.

I blame my self for so many things surrounding jakes death, if anything were to ever happen to josh or amy i would want to be certain that i had done everything in my power to prevent it, For me personally guilt is the worst part of my grief.

im sorry to go on, was hoping this would help me sort my head up but at the moment the only thing stopping me telling craig i have changed my mind is the fact we spent 2 hours shifting furniture earlier and im too tired to do it all again 

 

[davids- mummy]

aww mel its only natural to be nervous i know i would nbe too i have my video monitor ready for when millie comes home

[josephsmom]

Mel,   

I am so sorry you feel like this.  It is very understandable as you know how it is to loose a child.  My son is 14 and I still check to make sure he is breathing every night.


We are all here for you as you make the transition....but hun do what you feel comfortable with not what others tell you.  Their are no instruction manuels for being a parent so do what is right for you!

Thinking of you as you work through it sweetie!

XXX
Dyan

[Paula_xox_]

 

Its such a hard thing to do but Amy and Josh are hear to stay you have the joys of them when they get like my 2 last nite

Paula xox

[karaokej88]

 

hun, i dont have any experience of this but do believe you will do what is right for you and not what everyone else thinks you should be doing.

take care hun,
love jane,.xxxx

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

  paula  
They just love me, Its not there fault everyone does  

 

[ginger dee]

ive still Amelia in my room and shes 10mth old ive not got the nerves thing under control to move her she to is on an angel care alarm and i still get up to check on her along with my 5yr and 4yr old. 

[Alison - Lucys Mammy]

Mel, I can totally understand - Kate will be 3 in September.... We had only just got her settled in her room when Lucy died since then I can not bare for her not to be in the room with us - and shes in our bed ..... I have tried once or twice but end up going to her room or else taken her back in with us... I know myself I have to for her own sake try get out of the habit at this stage but I'm terrified if I do something will happen her that night ( Lucy was in our bed so realistically I know it doesnt make a differance....)
I did speak to my GP about it a while back because to be honest my family kept going on about it and he assured me it was natural and the only advise he gave was when we do feel ready to try it to stick to it as the first while will be difficult anyway....

Sorry so long guess what I am saying is do what your comfortable with....

Ali x

[olivias mummy]

awwwwww mel it must be so hard, i would be terrified im sure.

Im sure all will go well but i guess you wont get any sleep tonight.

love cheryl xx 

[Olliemam+1]

Hi

Olive is just over three and he still falls asleep in our bed and it is only recently that I have put him into his own bed.  I just rest a liitle easier that way, in the end you have to do what is best for you.  It is only natural that you will be worried, once Oliver is in his own bed I still check on him at least wo or three times.

Take care


Dawn xxxx. 

[Laura~Tyler&Taylor'sMommy]

Chloe's nearly 6 now and she's only really been sleeping in her room for about a year  . I still constantly check on her all the time.

I was so worried that something would happen to her and if that we were burgled I couldn't protect her.

I seriously understand how you feel, especially with the pressure from people to adapt a routine to how they see as normal.

Do what feels right for you

Laura x 

[karaokej88]

hi hun,

how did it go last night?

i was thinking of you.

love jane.xxxx

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

Didnt get much sleep but i think all things considered we did quite well.

will give it another go this evening and see how we go

 

[karaokej88]

 

well done though. that was a tough thing for you to do, i bet!

but all things considered, tonight might be easier to deal with than last night, now you know it can be done. i bet Amy had a good nights sleep though!
i can understand your nerves though hun i was thinking of you last night, and i was hoping it would all go smoothly. and it did. kind of!

tonight will possibly be a bit easier on you then, although i know you wont ever stop checking and listening etc etc cos i know i wouldnt.

take care hun, and if you need a chat you know where we are. no matter what time of the day or night,.

love jane./xxxx

[olivias mummy]

  glad all went well last night for you.

hopefully you will sleep better tonight.

well done Amy on your first night in your own bedroom. 

love cheryl xx