My Babies and I

[angel jamies mummy]

Hi,first I'd like to say this site has been a great support to me over the last year before that I didn't really have any one to talk about Jamie to.I don't know about you but I find everyone wants to talk to you about your living children but as soon as you mention your angel they run a mile.My pregnancy with the twins was quite normal,I was really enjoying this pregnancy having two little boys growing inside me.At 31 weeks I went into early labour even though the boys were a great weight they decided to stop my labour.A week later I was sent home and told to rest,they said the boys were fine.At 34 1/2 weeks I went into labour again this time they said they wouldn't stop me,they scanned me to check the babies before I went down to theater.I was so happy watching my little men on the screen and couldn't believe they would be in my arms a few minutes later.I went down to theater and a few minutes later Stephen was born at 23.54pm weighing 7lbs 3.5 oz screaming his little head off.Then at 23.56pm Jamie was born only there wasn't any screaming,I know before they even told me,my little man was as sleep.Jamie was 5lbs 10oz and was perfect in every way.I never really found out why they didn't notice something was wrong,they think he died because he was ready to be born the first time I went into labour,his placenta had poisoned him and they say a was very lucky I didn't loss the both of my boys.I just wish I had both of my boys with me,I always feel as if I've robbed Stephen of his brother,Why did I not notice something wrong as they were both inside me and isn't a mother supposed to protect her kids? I just hope Jamie is up playing in the clouds enjoying his angel life and knows mummy loves him with all her heart.Sorry to go on love Lisa xxxxxx

[davids- mummy]

lisa thank you for sharing your babies stories jamie is so proud of you 

[GillyF]

Gosh Lisa, we all suffer 'What if.. and If only', it's so much a part of losing a baby and we must live with the pain for the rest of lives, but with your extraordinary story you must suffer terribly. I think we all live with feelings of guilt, we're mothers, we ache for our lost babies, but you must not think that you robbed your son of his brother. Robbing is a something you do actively, and you did nothing wrong. What happened to Jamie must be incredibly rare and no doubt your doctors were astonished and felt awful. I'm not sure how you could possibly have known something was wrong because at that stage, and at a good weight, surely the babies had very little room to move so you would have been hard pressed to detect anything untoward.

If you don't mind, pls could you explain how it was that the delayed labour the first time. I understood from everything I've read that once labour starts that's it, there's nothing that can be done to stop it. Then I read a few weeks ago of a mum whose labour was delayed and I was really confused. After your story, I'm going into "what if" overdrive.

So sorry to hear your story and of course Jamie will always be part of you and deep in your heart.

best wishes,
Gilly

     

[angel jamies mummy]

Hi Gilly,I was as confused as you when they said they were going to stop my labour,but as long as you have not dilated too far they give you a drug witch is through the form of a drip which slows down and stops the contractions.If only I knew what was going to happen I would of refused the drug but at the time I thought the doctors knew best.love Lisa xxxx

[karaokej88]

 

no words,. just hugs for you hun, sprry your lil man cant be with you.
love jane,.xxxx

[GillyF]

Thanks Lisa.

I think there are a lot of pregnancy books and websites that should be updated!

I was in hospital for  weeks, bleeding heavily, and nobody ever said anything to me about drugs for preventing labour. Nor did they believe me when I was in labour and if I hadn't in the end demanded to see a doctor my boys would have arrived in the room I was in (at the end of a very long corridor).

I would suggest that the doctors in your case were just going by the book - i.e the longer babies can stay inside mum the better - the question is could tests have confirmed what was happening to Jamie's placenta, should they have confirmed it?

Like me, it just proves how crucial problems with the placenta can be. Guy was very low weight and that made him more vulnerable to NEC and, when he caught it, at far greater risk that it would prove fatal.

So many what ifs, so much sadness.

best wishes,
Gilly

[marie~elises mummy]

 thank you for sharing your story hun, i am so sad you lost your little boy..

[marie Ethan's mum]

Thank you for sharing your story , so sorry for your loss , hope stephen is doing well and I'm sure Jamie is watching over both of you

[marie Ethan's mum]

I just wanted to had I also had a drug call nephapine ,(not sure on spelling) but it is a form of blood pressure drug that they can give which has been proven to slow or stop the contractions , obviously there is a point after which they say no you are too advanced we can't do anything but I was given it when i  presnted at hospital at 24 weeks contraction every 5 minutes and was was 3 cm dilated to try to stop my labour or slow it enough to give the twins chance to have the steroids to develop their lungs , it slowed my labour only for 24 hours because I suffer with low blood pressure and by giving me the drug it made my blood pressure go too low , and it became dangerous for me.
at the time i said i don't care i want it but they said they had to put my health before the babies , i was furious .

[angel jamies mummy]

Hi,I know they like to give the steroids a chance to kick in and I understand that but I'd had the injections a week before that as they said they did'nt think I would go much longer.So I really don't understand why they stopped me.love lisa xxxx

[mummys angels kelsie & kyla]

i am so sorry for the loss of your little angel he will be watching over u and your family love keri xx