A nice tree decoration?

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

This will be our fourth christmas without Jake. Each year I have bought him a special decoration for the tree (pic included 2005 pic on left 2006 middle and 2007 on the right)

However, Im beginning to wonder If I should carry this on. Firstly I cant find nice decorations that feel right anymore 

And I dont want people to think my christmas tree is some sort of 'shrine' to jake

If I find something perfect I know I will buy it but if I dont find anything should I feel guilty?

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[marie Ethan's mum]

Mel if your tree is plenty big enough keep going if it's what makes your feel good hun ,  I sure jake loves them and if you maybe involve the other little ones in choosing Jakes tree gift , it will make it something from them too . My kids love to choose things for ethan and it helps me that he is still a special part of their lives , they don't need to think of him every day but when they do it's because they want too , If you decide to stop that is fine too but don't feel guilty Jake will alwys be the star or angel at the top of your beautiful tree anyway

[Bretts mummy Emma]

Mel if thats what you want for your tree then go for it hunny. I am having my tree as a shrine to Brett as it is a special time of the year that my Angel didn't get to spend with me. we have also decided that we will get a babuble or dec for the tree every year and when the boys eventually move out they can take a few with them as then they will have taken a small part of their brother with them 

[Adams Mum]

I hope you carry on - it should give you some pleasure to find the right bauble each year to add.

Unless your tree is very small - jakes baubles will only make up a few of the many decorations needed, so it wouldnt look instantly like a shrine.  if it makes you feel less guilty, why not do what I did last year and add some decorations with other family member names on?

[Paula_xox_]

Mel

Alex got a decoration of each of us on his 1st christmas then last yr the boys got one each with their names on and the kids picked out a Me To You teddy decoration for each of them. I bought something too its 2 Me To You bears dressed in santa hats sitting on a sleigh and it sits on the hearth.

Its nice to carry on buying something but it doesnt need to be a tre decoration

 

[Rachie-Mal]

This is the 3rd Christmas without our darling Alex and yes I have bought plenty of Christmas decorations for him each year.

This year Ian and I bought this huge Snowman which sings 

I don't see anything wrong it and to be honest who cares if anyone does think your Christmas tree is a shrine... I know mine is and I am so proud to do it each year for my angel