confused!

[natty1990]

i know this probably shouldn;t be on this board with it being pregnancy after loss but there isnt a parenting after a loss board so it is the closest thing..

just wondering if any of you really struggled if you have had a baby after loosing your angel?

during the day i am fine with her but during the night i find myself leaning in her moses basket shaking her and waking her up to make sure she is still with us!
i really dont think this is normal but dont kow what i should do .. 

Natalie xxx

[davids- mummy]

natalie after a loss i think we check more on them incase something happens too our babies i remeber i wasnt that concerned about anything happenng my two older children never thought it could happen to me until i lost david , it makes us more aware it can happen , i hope you get some sleep

[Teresa ~ Keaton's Mommy]

Hi Natalie

I sadly think that what you describe is normal to us who have angels. I have an older child and after Keaton died I used to find myself checking that she was still breathing in the middle of the night. I also have another baby now who is 4 months old and I have heart stopping moments when I have to touch her to reassure myself she is ok. I hope that some of our anxieties will ease as time passes but the fear of losing a child for us is not a nightmare it is a reality.

love

Teresa xx

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

Nat, It is perfectly normal. Dont worry

If you feel the need to check her constantly to save your sanity then do so, You certainly wont be doing her any harm.

Hopefully as the weeks go on you shouldn't need to check her so often. But dont be hard on yourself

 

[***clairelouise-finlays mummy ***]

 

[Olliemam+1]

Nat

Sweetheart  please know that what you are doing is completely normal, at least I think so, for any mammy who has lost their Child.  I still check on Oliver now at least three times a nigth and he is 3 1/2.

Take care


Dawn xxxxx. 

[mogpce1]

That sounds totally normal to me. After loosing three children when Emily was born she was in NICU and SCBU and then had reflux and stopped breathing. We ended up coming home from our 4th hospital stay with an MR10 monitor which was attached to her belly and clicked when she breathed. THIS was truly the only thing that kept our sanity for a whole year. YES 1 year. We just couldn't get the courage to take it off because it kept us sane. What you are experiencing sounds totally normal to me.
HUGS

Catherine.

[marie~elises mummy]

 this hun is a totally normal thing to do for anyone who has lost a child, we al do it. when i lost elise who was sadly stillborn, i was forever checking her elder sister, still do now and shes nearly 7. i also check the boys but i have to make them move wise i don't feel comfortable just leaving them. god no's if it gets any easier as they get older but nowing me i'll be round there houses when they in there 40's.

[elenors mummy]

Aw hun i am just the same and Lola is 8 months old now.... i even have the tommee tippee sensors so if she doesnt move for 15 seconds (breathing ) the alarm goes off.... since getting this i dont have to wake her up anymore but i am constantly in her room checking on her as i am convinced that she is going to be taken away from me..... i am sure that this is normal for all us angel mummies.......

Take care

Lynette xx

[Angel Rosemary's mum ~ tigertess]

lol marie @ being round their houses @ 40
well I regularly check on james before I can settle n if in any doubt make him stir ........ but not my eldest (although he is 16 lol) so it is common and perfectly naturel
tess