Twins birthday coming up on the 7th of jan (surviving twin mentioned)

[marie Ethan's mum]

Just as I feel like I'm recovering from xmas without Ethan with us I have his and Erin's birthday next week,

trying so hard to be excited that erin is going to be two , a big milestone her with everything she has been through but I just can't ,

The other kids will be back to school and chrissy will be back at work this year ( last year he took the day off and we took her back to the hospital they were born at)

this year it's just going to be mummy and Erin on our own during the day , family and friends has asked if we will be having a party for her in the evening but I don't think I can face it,  It's so unfair on her she is a true miracle as I'm always telling you all surviving everything she has , and I should feel like celebrating every wonderful thing she does , every step she takes and all I feel is it's just a reminder of everything Ethan isn't  doing

sorry for the moan

[Bretts mummy Emma]

Awwww hun  I can only try to understand how you feel as I obv don't have twins. I know what you mean tho by others thinking that you should be grateful for what you have but at the end of the day we all know who is missing from our family 

We are here for you hun and we will remember Ethan on his special day and even Erin too 

[kimbobt84-BensMummy]

marie, firstly big hugs. I know how your feeling, torn. Torn between feeling guilty towards ethan if you celebrate, and guilty towards erin if you don't. Both your children have achieved so much-both miracles. Just sadly ethan lost his brave fight. The best advice i ever recieved was that birthdays should be celebrated as an happy day and anniversaries as a sad day. Easier said than done i know when the last thing you feel like doing is that. But ethans birthday, ethans life should be celebrated. Maybe not the big party etc but how about just a special tea as a family at home, a few balloons, party food etc just the 6 of you. By the way-did i ever tell you i copied you with the cakes last year, one for hol, one for ben, thankyou, it really helped. Most of all enjoy erin on her birthday, take it as a positive its just the 2 of you, real, rare mummy and erin time. Wish i could offer some helpful advice. You know your all never far from my thoughts x

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

Marie, I cant imagine how difficult there birthday will be. I really struggle having Josh so close in age to Jake but to have such torment going on all on the same day must be heart breaking.

Erin is a little miracle, But so is Ethan. He fought hard to give you as many memories as he could. I know its no consolation to you.

In your position I think I would try to do something positive for both of them. It doesnt have to be big and it doesnt have to involve anyone but your immediate family.

I hope you find something that feels fitting for both Erin and Ethan.

Thinking of you

 

[Olliemam+1]

Marie

Sweetheart, what can I say, nothing that will ease your pain and torment.  I wish with all of my heart that your beautiful Ethan was with his Erin to celebrate their birthday together  .

Sending you all my love as always.

Take care

Dawn xxxxx. 

[GillyF]

Marie,

Sorry I haven't posted earlier, but I do hope all the family managed to celebrate both Ethan and Erin's special day. It will have been painful, I know, but Ethan is always in your hearts, and deeply missed, and all you can do is put on your bravest face, let the tears flow when they must and smile for precious Erin.

It will always be hard and we are all here for you. 

Gilly
xxx   

[marie~elises mummy]

sorry to post late. was thinking of you and you twins yesterday hun. xx