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« Reply #1 on: February 27, 2009, 11:58:20 AM » |
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suzanne i have seen her and she would melt the toughest of hearts , i dont know how you can manage that as it took jenny 5 yrs to leave mine and the odd day she will come in for a nap with her mammy , how i got jenny to sleep in her own , was she was coming up to 6 and on her birthday i told her she was a big girl now , and it hurts mammmy when she in the bed as she kicks so much as she was so strong now
so she slept on her own
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Olliemam+1
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« Reply #2 on: February 27, 2009, 12:02:05 PM » |
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Suzanne Bless her, she is not spoilt you just love her. Oliver who is 4 on Monday still falls asleep inour bed and he says the same he loves me and just wants to give me cuddles  . I personally do not have a problem with him doing this but my hubby is not too keen. I think that I give in to him because when you have lost your child and you are blessed to have another one, you just do anything to please them and I love Oliver falling asleep beside me and I put him into his own bed. All I can say is tht hope that given time Oliver will want to go to sleep in his own bed but until then I am not going to stop him. With regards to my hubby he knows what the score is and just comes to bed when Oliver is asleep in his won bed, nit ideal but it seems to work for us. Here anytime you need to chat. take care Dawn xxxxx.  |
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Pamela
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« Reply #5 on: February 27, 2009, 12:30:24 PM » |
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Or bless her she sounds so so cute.
Jessica goess through phases where she goes to bed with no fuss then all of a sudden she just wants to sleep with me etc she is 6 nearly 7. but what we do is have a chart and when she is good belle moves up a space. i have now included this in the bedtime routine but with the exception of a Friday and saturday night when I let her fall asleep cuddled up with me on the sofa. As a routine isnt as important on these days i say that if she is good going to bed in the week she can fall asleep on me downstairs and daddy will put her in bed when she is asleep. the TV doesnt bother her and she is usually asleep in 5 mins of me telling her to got to sleep now!
and even when Jamie was here this seemed to work well because Jamie went down no problem. I am dreading what I will be like with new baby though - I will probably become a soft touch! xx
Hope this helps
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samijayne
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« Reply #6 on: February 27, 2009, 02:48:47 PM » |
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My sister has a similar problem, completely different reasons behind it though. She kept letting the child sleep in her bed, as he was missing his daddy so much. (Dad left for other woman) Since the child was 3 he's been sleeping in his mums bed. Now shes in a serious relationship, she can't have her partner sleep over. The child has just turned 10.  She doesn't know how to change things. She's tried letting him decorate the spare room how he wanted. He chose the bed, and bedding etc. And still he refuses to sleep in the room. He causes such a fit, that after midnight his mum gives up.  |
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marie Ethan's mum
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« Reply #7 on: February 27, 2009, 03:59:09 PM » |
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has you tried laying with her in her bed to start with suzanne you can be firm but kind , it doesn't make you a bad mummy . maybe start with saying lets cuddle in her bed the , maybe introduce the reward chart for her being such a big girl and going off to sleep in her own bed , just change one thing at a time first where she falls asleep them how long you lay with her and gradually phase yourself out your doing the best for her and your relationship in the long run , she'll still love you and you'll be the best mummy no matter where she sleeps.
for the older child has your sister tried, having his mates from school over to sleep for the weekend , I find my nine year old who still sucked his thumb until last year stopped when i had his mates over for the weekend because he was embarressed to do it in front of them , it may work for your nephew hunni
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« Reply #9 on: February 27, 2009, 09:39:54 PM » |
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My daughter Evie is still in with us, she sleeps in a travel cot at the side of our bed, and she will be three next month, she also refuses to go to bed when the older one's go, they go up at 7pm, so me and her daddy hardly get any time alone till she goes off to sleep on the sofa then we move her upstairs and put her in the travel cot, she often wakes up and want's to get in with us, but i'm to scared 2 sleep with her in our bed, so it results in me or her daddy staying awake for hours on end till she goes back off and i can put her back in her cot with out wakeing her  Donna   |
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suzanne
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« Reply #10 on: February 28, 2009, 12:57:29 PM » |
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she sleeps in a cot at the bottom of our bed. she really needs to move in with the other 2 girls in their room. she will be sharing a bed with my 9yr old but when i try that then cara ends up getting no peace to sleep and she has school the next day. going to try again in the easter holidays as they wont have to get up early if she takes hours to go to sleep. i was considering taking her cot down and putting it away but if she doesnt stay in the girls room then i could have her permanently beside us  as for the 10 year old still beside his mother, all i can say is  !! its one thing getting a toddler to sleep by themselves but i think if it was my child at 10 they would get a good kick up the backside. sorry but that is my personal opinion. |
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samijayne
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« Reply #11 on: March 02, 2009, 04:44:02 PM » |
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as for the 10 year old still beside his mother, all i can say is !! its one thing getting a toddler to sleep by themselves but i think if it was my child at 10 they would get a good kick up the backside. sorry but that is my personal opinion. I think your personal opinion is 100% right! I love my sister to bits, but *sigh* Good luck at getting your youngest in to your girls room xxx Hope it goes smoothly |
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« Reply #12 on: March 03, 2009, 07:26:04 PM » |
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Good luck suzanne. I know it will be an emotional time for you but i hope it goes smoothly x
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