Advice needed pls

[Teresa ~ Keaton's Mommy]

Me again with mind in over drive!!

When we found out we were expecting Kendra we were over the moon as we had been ttc for 12 mths.
We said that she would be our last baby as Phil has 3 other children in addition to our two girls and our beautiful angel Keaton. I am feeling slight panic now at the thought of not having any more babies and would quite happily be pregnant right now as I would love Kendra to have a sibling close to her age. I can not settle my mind as to whether this is a true desire to have another child or if I am subconciously trying to fill a gap in our lives that can never ever be filled nor would I want it to be. When I am being realsitic we do not really have the space in our home or the finances to support another child but that does not stop this strong desire.

Has anyone experience the same or similar feelings? I know that my family will never feel complete without Keaton here and not sure how I get through this?

Teresa xxx 

[suzanne]

we were just having this conversation during our meet in belfast on sunday. as jen put it 'i think we always want to have a little baby as our body knows we've had one but our arms are empty'. my youngest is starting nursery in september and i am going to be so lonely without her in the house. it is not an option for me to have another child as i have had 5 c/sections and was sterilized at the time i had my youngest. it is obviously a very personal choice for you to make. if it was possible for me to have more children i would 

[Teresa ~ Keaton's Mommy]

Hi Suzanne

I agree with what Jen says and wish I had been there to share my feelings with you all in person during your Belfast meet. It is that 'missing' feeling that will always be there, just scared that only one more, will never be enough and I can not go on forever even if I wanted to. I am still young (ok well fairly lol) and if we were to have another baby we should do it soon, that plus I would love the youngest to be close in age (given my own way I would already be pregnant).

Ahh lots of talking with Phil. I know I could get my own way but I need to know its right.......Hmmmm head spin!!


Thank you 

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

Teresa, I have just the same dilema. I would love another baby with all my being.  I long to be pregnant but I just cant do it. I know it is not the ache for a baby that is driving this because I have to beautiful babies but it is the ache to have my baby boy back. I know that I couldnt cope with another child right now. I love Josh and Amy-May to bits but they are hard work and I dont like the thought of all my attention being divided again because I already struggle to keep both of them happy all the time.

I cant imagine that I'll never be pregnant again. But honestly at this moment in time I think I have had my three babies and that will be my lot. But ask me again in another week and I will have changed my mind. 

I dont know that there will ever be a 'right' time for you to another baby but enjoy kendra as much as you can for as long as you can and if the time comes for you and phil then I wish you all the very best.

Sorry for waffling

 

[Bretts mummy Emma]

Teresa I have felt those exact feelings, I wasn't sure whether it was the deep desire to have another baby as I am very maternal person and get broody over the simplist of things like a dummy lol. Until I was sure that it wasn't just the deep desperation of wanting Brett back I had the coil fitted. My arms are empty yet my body is screaming for pregnancy. I hope that you and Phil make the right decision for you both xxxxx

[mnj_1688]

I'm having the EXACT same feelings. I've recently experienced another miscarriage, and now I would love nothing more than to get pregnant again. Than I look at it again and think, no I don't wanna GET pregnant, I want to STILL be pregnant.... or so I think. Hell I don't know anymore. When we found out we were pregnant with the baby I lost, we weren't trying, nor were we ready... and nothing has changed... so why all of a sudden my desire?! I know how your feeling and I would love to give you advice, but I'm still stuck in the perdicament myself.   

[***clairelouise-finlays mummy ***]

 

[sue]

I have had and still would love to have another baby (but will not happen as split from partner and am too old now)  I love being pregnant.  I already have two children from first marriage and angel David and then had Olivia from my ex and sometimes I think I would love another baby not to replace David though (David was diagnosed with spina bifida and hydrocphealus) so may be just to make sure that it was one off thing that this had happened.  Not sure if that makes sense. 

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Sue X

[kimbobt84-BensMummy]

 teresa, maybe talking about it with your partner will also help you sort through your own thoughts too x