Im not coping well..

[ConniesMammy.]

As the topic says im not coping very well im feelin so unstable,i am not getting on with Mark,my eldest made an accusation against me last week which resulted in the social services coming out, i was supposed to be going into buisness and thats all gone pear shaped and all my friends are having babies and i cant.
Im so upside down and i think im gonna cave in very soon.I dont know whats going on i am trying so hard but everything is against me all the time.
Sorry to go on but i think i need a bit of advice or help?

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

Many  for you Claire,

I really dont think I can offer you any advice but I couldnt read your post and not reply. Life has been so cruel to you, I dont know why because you are so lovely and selfless and you don't deserve it. I can only hope that somethings start going your way and life stops feeling like such a struggle.

My relationship with Craig is the first thing to suffer when I am feeling bad. So much so that I can measure how bad I feel by the number of arguments in a day  when you feel so low it's hard to be understanding towards others so the smallest error on Marks part is probably winding you up. I do the same thing, small things that I would normally shrug off or ignore make me so so angry.

Maybe you need to let yourself cave in, just for a little while. Sometimes it all we can do

I really really hope that things start looking up for you soon

 

[kimbobt84-BensMummy]

Sorry to hear your having such a bad time claire. I agree with mel-sometimes we need to let ourselves break down as sometimes we have to hit the bottom before we can begin the climb back up, and whilst we're just falling we're concentrating on trying not to carry on falling rather than climbing back up. In other words we can't be strong all the time claire. You seem to have so much going on and we're here to listen to you about anything anytime-god i'm such a cliche but 'better out than in' 'a problem shared is a problem halved' etc etc. Claire, my biggest piece of advice would be to tell mark, just in a few words the way your feeling, so hes aware. I now try to tell lee that i'm snapping because of the way i'm feeling and he then knows to stay clear, not wind me up or take it personally. Big hugs claire x

[Belles Mummy]

Big   Claire.

I wish you didnt have so many things going on right now you really dont deserve the pain and upset, I too row with Mark when I am feeling down and sometimes feel we are worlds apart then others we really pull together.

It's normal to give in to it all and say "no more" let it happen its ok to cave in, Its so unfair why wouldnt you!

I hope your days turn brighter soon, In the meantime let it all out here anytime xxx

[mum2evan+dyfan]

i agree with the others hun.
just cave in.  let yourself hit the bottom so you can scream, cry and let it all out.
if you want to go to the beach or walk to the top of a (small) mountain and just sit and cry and scream then let me know.
i can sit with you just so someone is there or i can stay in the car.

Kathxxx

[Bretts mummy Emma]

Claire there is nothing more I can say that the others haven't said hunni, I do think you should talk to Mark tho so that he is aware of how you are feeling and what's happening with you because men are rubbish at hints or telepathy!! I hope that things settle down with your son too you have my number xxxxx

[***clairelouise-finlays mummy ***]

  for you hun thinking of you xxxx