Found out we have had a missed miscarriage :-(

[mummy of twin angels]

Hi guys,

I havent been on here for a while, things we jst settling down after losing our twins 4 years ago this june (harvey and courtney) but we went for our 12 week scan on wednesday to find out that there was no baby :-( 
We were so exciting going, but i knew deep down i shouldnt be too excited just incase! Apparently its called a missed miscarriage? id honestly not heard of it, they said the baby probably stopped growing at about 7 weeks, and now im just waiting to go into hospital tmr to have the second tablet to induce the miscarriage! But im in agony already after the first one? Is this normal? :-/ Wondering if i shud have opted for the d and c? I just convinced myself i wanted to be aware of everything happening to me, so i knew in my head the baby had gone, i could c it going if that makes sense? sounds a bit creepy i know, but i dont want to end up back in that depressed mess i was in only a year or so ago.......

I've read a couple of your 'posts' and i realise its more common than i thought.....hope u r all doing ok
Charlotte xxx

[suzanne]

  i am so sorry to hear this. my heart goes out to you. life is so unfair   

[Olliemam+1]

Hello

I am so sorry that this has happened to you, life is so so cruel and unfair as aw all know.  I suffered a Missed M/C and chose to have the D&C as I had already lost our Baby at home, it was the right decision for us and I must admit personally I was glad I chose this way.  My Sister also had a Missed M/C and chose the same option as you have, for her it was best as she did not want to have a D&C.  I wish with all of my heart I could take away your pain, I really do.  I am always around, please get in touch anytime.

Try and be as gentle as you can on yourslef, take care

Dawn xxxxx. 

[Admin]

Hi Charlotte

I am so sorry to read this. I too have experienced a miscarriage after loss. Like you I tried not to get excited but its impossible not to allow yourself to think things could work out this time. Nothing prepares us for losing a baby. I've had many losses and no matter how hard I try to be cautious my heart breaks every time.
I have a mixture of medical management like you have opted for, d and cs and complete natural mcs requiring no further treatment. I don't think any one way is easier than another. I know current best practice is to try to use d and cs as a last resort as there is a risk of damaging the cervix when its opened during the d and c. That sort of is believed to increase the risk of 2nd trimester mcs and premature births.

I hope tomorrow is as gentle as it can be for you. I am sorry you are having to go through this.

Jen

(Sorry if this has come up from admin but I'm doing it from my phone and can't tell if I'm logged in as myself or not).

[Bretts mummy Emma]

  Charlotte I am so sorry to hear of your loss  thinking of you xx

[mummy of twin angels]

  Thankyou for ur messages,
It went well yesterday, as well as it can go anyway.  It wasnt the nicest experience, but think i chose the right option for me.
The nurses helped and made it less horrific, ahhh its just awful tho, you just wouldnt wish it on anyone, but if anyone is reading this and do find themselves in that situation, if you dont like the sight of blood, i would reccomend a d and c, because you have to keep everything you pass for the nurse to look at to know if everything has come away, and also to send to the lab for further testing?? its not easy.
Just thankful we can now move on and grieve the baby......xxxxxx

[Belles Mummy]

Im so sorry Charlotte xxx

[Susan - Tobias & Tanesha's Mummy]

So sorry for your loss Charlotte, thinking of you 
 

[jojo23]

so sorry hun my thoughts are with you. i also had a missed miscarriage its devastating! hope things get better for you soon xxxx

[***clairelouise-finlays mummy ***]

  hugs x