FEELING GUILTY

[lisab]

Hi

I have a gorgeous baby son, Jonathan aged 6 months.  Previous to having Jonathan I had two miscarriages and was so desperately happy when Jonathan arrived safe and well.

Problem is, sometimes I have an "off" day which I am sure is normal but I am feeling SO GUILTY because I miscarried twice and wanted this baby so much and feel like I shouldn't be complaining and be totally grateful for everything.

I feel very emotional at the moment - any advice????


Lisa xxx

[soph25]

I have no advice sorry but just wanted to let you know that I am the same as you. I too have off days and then feel so guilty as I am so lucky to have my ds. I love him so much and wouldn't change him for the world but being a mum is hard work and I think we are allowed off days!! (Sometimes)!!

Hope you're feeling happier soon. xx

[Olliemam+1]

Hi

I love my son Oliver to bits, he is 2 1/2 now but somedays I do think how he would react to having an older brother or sister, the baby we lost.  I have no real advice but would welcome any comments.


Take care

Dawn xxxx.

[lisab]

I think we put too much pressure on ourselves sometimes and I've realised that I can't be Superwoman, no matter how much I would like to be.
I still feel bad complaining though as I remember those dark days post miscarriage when I would have given anything back then for sleepless nights and babies cries!

I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one feeling like this though.  Thanks so much for your replies.

As for my emotions - as usual I will blame the hormones!!!!!

Bless you xxxx

[butterflyAdam]

Lisa

We all get off days and you have had so much to cope with as well since Jonathan was born, with being ill.  It is perfectly natural to feel guilty and feel that we should be happy for what we have, but as you said yourself we're not superwomen and it is hardgoing at times being a mum never mind dealing with grief on top of it.

Eleanor x 

[Emmylou]

It is perfectly normal to feel how you do huney , please dont feel guilty, . You will have many times along the way when Johnathan , will make you happy , sad , and even angry , but thats what children do , and sometimes we feel awful , but its all normal , My son Nathan is 13 now and and my angel son should have been 16. Its called life sweetheart and sometimes it can be so blummin hard.
                      

[lisab]

You are right.  I was at the Health Centre this morning getting my weekly bloods done as I'm STILL getting stabilised on warfarin and a lady beside me commented on Jonathan.  She then told me about her neice who had a baby 4 months ago and who is not expected to live to see his 1st birthday.  It was a bit of a reality check you know.  And I guess the fact is that everyone finds things difficult sometimes and its nothing to be ashamed about.

Listening to you all has helped me - THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

I hope all our little angels are in heaven playing together! 

Lisa x