for those with children close together

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

I'm just wondering if any of you have had similar problems,

Josh is 16 months now so obviously still to young to understand what a new baby coming means, although he kisses my bump and if you ask were the baby is he will point to my belly, or craigs belly or his own 

Anyways, the past week or two he has becoming so so clingy, not in general just to me, im wondering if maybe he knows more about what is going on than i realise, does he know he will soon have to share me?? 

Obviously jake is still my first born, but i have the same kinda firstborn bond with josh as i had and have all the time in the world for him without many other distractions, I dont want him to feel put out when the little lady arrives but i dont want to not have the same sorta bond with her as i have with him if you get me.

Im really pooping myself about having an 18month old and a newborn if im honest, I dont feel like im gonna be able to give either the time of attention they deserve.

He is good when we visit other babies, he is interested in them but not overly curious which i think is a good thing, but will he be the same when a new baby is here for good? 

 

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

 

brave lady 

i know that somehow i will cope, i wont have a choice, but is coping enough 

[peteruss]

mel this may sound cruel but josh is the one who will notice a difference not lil jen, so if you can put lil jen in a safe place and play with josh, there is 22 month between my two and at feed times i used to put hannah in her chair at the table with something t eat so she was distracted whilst i fed thomas, We always tried t keep hannah involved in thomas like helping with nappies and fetching the cream etc hth!!

ash

[suzanne]

as long as your wee man gets loads of attention he should be ok.my kids were great and no jealousy,the only problem i had was making sure the baby wasnt lifted out of cot!! when i was expecting my 3rd baby,i got presents for my eldest 2 from the baby.they said 'mummy so that was why your tummy was so fat'.   just let him help you fetch nappies and sponge baby etc. when friends and family are bringing pressies for amy may get them to bring a little something for josh too as being a big brother is very special.hope this helps.

[claire-enzo'smommy]

mel josh will be fine i had enzo wen ellisia was 17 months old u may have to reassure josh sometimes but he should be ok if your thinking bout brest feeding it can b difficult as ellisia hated it if i even tried with enzo and james used to try and pull me away wen i tried with ellisia its harder if josh would of been older i had ellisia wen james was 4 and he really was put out it was so much easier with a 17 month old and a newborn although it is hard work    and  to you josh jake and lil jen

[soph25]

Aw Mel I'm sure you'll be brilliant!

Only got little man with me but if I was to have another one soon I would get him to buy pressie for new baby and get him one from them. I would also get people to buy pressies for him if they are buying one for baby so he didn't feel left out. Think I would just try to include him as much as I could like others have said getting nappies and things.

New baby's don't need an awful lot of things other than feeding and changing and some cudles so try to spend time with Josh just playing in between these things and forget about the housework for a whikle and get someone else to do it for you!

You'll be fine Mel and you'll soon get into a routine

xxx

[olivias mummy]

When my mum was having my sister and my my dad took me to the hospital my mum gave me a new dolly so i had my own baby and then i would do the same things with my dolly that my mum was doing with my sis and so i didnt feel left out and it distracted me a bit when mum needed to look after my lil sis. maybe you could do something similar with jake? yes i know he is a boy but i dont see a problem with boys and dolls.

love cheryl xx 

[johnathons mam]

Hi

There is 15 and 1/2 mnths between my oldest 2 children when I had my son (youngest of the 2) my sister in law brought a baby doll with all the bits into hospital for my daughter so she didn't feel left out and I would let her hold her brother (supervised0 quite often she used to help me bath him and do other stuff too the best thing is just to include little josh in everyhing possible with your new baby hope this helps hunny and good luck 

sarah x

[emmie's mammy]

ther is 18 months between my youngest 2 and  they fight like cat and dog lol

danielle loved kai when he was born and was always giving him cuddles and stuff...but the second he was up and about she didnt like it lol, i have to watch them like a hawk and can never leave them together for even a second.

you will find a way of dealing with them when you see how they react to each other.
they will be fine once they have all settled im sure

love to ya