in 2minds what to do?

[elenors mummy]

All my 3 children have been christened dom , elle and elenor (but this was when she had passed away) now i am in 2 minds do i have Lola christened?  The only place that i would have her christened is the  church where Elenor is buried and by the vicar that buried Elenor?? i honestly dont think i could cope with been in the church again.... my friend got married here in November and i went to the wedding but really stuggled cos all i could see was Elenors coffin at the front?? am i weird??  i just dont know what to do and Wes is no help he just says .... whatever you want to do love??? wtf!!! need a lil input here!!!!

Lynette 

[claire-enzo'smommy]

   Lynette i can understand how u feel we where gonna have ellisia christened but i cant bare to have the vicar that did enzo's funeral christen ellisia is there no other church that u could go to or explain your feelings to the vicar and ask if another one could do the christening might be a long shot but worth a try  to u and elenor

[MammytoAbigail]

hey hun, Abigail got christened in the hospital ward... and the church she got buried in is where i want to get Olivia christened, i never really thought about what i might remember.... but come to think of it i think i still want Olivia christened in the same church where Abigail 'was' by the same vicar because then he has a 'connection' with both my girls if you get me! i havnt been in the church since so i cant help there but to me having Lola done in that church where her sisters been sounds great to me! sorry i cant help much!! xxx (ive gone on i no sorry hun) xxx  

[mel - jakesangelmummy]

 

I dont know what to suggest sweetie. I can see why your in a pickle.

If you think you could cope with it, it might be nice to have lola christened at her big sisters resting place, then elenor would be a part of the day too.

I know im useless 

 

[olivias mummy]

you dont have to have Lola christened whilst she is a baby so why not wait a while and give yourself time to think about it, there is no rush.

love cheryl xx  

[Jen]

Oh Lynette 

I can see why this is so hard for you. However remember if you do go ahead and have Lola christened there it would mean that there would be a very special link that day with Elenor, with it being the same church. Maybe if your minister was approachable you could ask him to include Elenor in the ceremony too.

Only you know what is right for you. You know where I am.

Jen

[AlbiesMummy]

Lynette,
Like you my children have been christerned Albie had a blessing and i really wanted Olivia to be christerned, our church is the church Albie had his funeral and is buried in the grounds there so i was in 2 minds about what to do, when we spoke to the vicor he was wonderful and we made Albie a big part of the christening I had a wonderful candle made which said with love to you Olivia on your christening day love your big brother Albie x x x x this was lite when they light the christening candles and was left in the church, the balloons i had for Olivia i also had a couplr done for Albie which we let go when we came out of the church, there were bittersweet moments too that day i sat in the same place as i sat for Albie's funeral not by choice but i felt like Albie was close by all that day.
Another thing we did was go to the church after a morning service when it was empty the vicor just let us sit and take it all in tears were shed but it made it much easier to return.

Hope it helps a little

Love Lee x x x x

[Paula_xox_]

Lynette

As the others have said it would be lovely to have Elenor included in Lola's christening but if you cant face it while she's small how about a naming ceramony and think about her christening when she gets a bit bigger .

Only you and Wes can decide but what ever you do decide will be the right decision for you.

Love Paula xox

[elenors mummy]

Thanks ladies your all so lovely.... i love you all

Lynette xxx