i really need some advice?

Lynette, I have a memory book full of things of the boys, but at the end of the book I have left some pages for James to do what he likes. He has made a page for me, for Gavin and for him. I buy little things from the craft shops and he enjoys contributing to putting the memory book together. When people look at it he's proud as punch and says "i did that" - maybe you could go shopping with Ellesse and get her to build a memory book of Elenor and tell her that it's between her and her wee sister, that way if she wants to write things down she can and she has somewhere to put her thoughts.

Give me a call - anytime,

Karen xx